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His Orgasm — 10 Things He's Dying to Tell You

By Robert Hamilton

Is there anything that remotely equals the thrill of the male orgasm? Speaking as a male, I can't think of anything. What's weird is that, for all the attention it receives, the male orgasm doesn't get talked about in much detail despite the fact that there can be a huge difference in intensity from one to the next. My guess is that the most reliable gauge of orgasmic intensity a lot of women have is the Groan-o-Meter: A big "ugh" from the big lug seems to indicate that, on this particular evening, his climax was a mindblower.

With this information gap in mind, I set out to discover what, exactly, makes for the most bone-rattling, foundation-shaking male orgasms, and what women can do to encourage their arrival. I went straight to the experts — a few sex therapists, and lots of men — and, believe me, it was as if they (the guys at least) were just waiting for someone to ask. So here, finally, is everything you need to know about helping your guy have stronger, longer orgasms.

One warning before we begin: Be prepared for surprises, and for seeming contradictions. It turns out that male orgasms are both as single-minded as they sometimes seem and at the same time a lot more complicated. As sensitive as men are to skill and technique, they're equally powered by mood, setting, and timing. The fun — for him, for you — is in mixing up the following strategies to see what will work tonight. So have at it.